DFS: Week 31 Ultrasound and Three Scenarios

This video gives us three end scenarios for this pregnancy.

Also, to those of you who have asked about a baby shower, I did talk about this in Week 18, but I realize it has been a while since then, so the short answer is that I’m not having one until after he is born.  But there will be one, I promise!


House Project #1: The Shed

Last summer, Michael and I started talking about getting some things accomplished around the house.  We created a budget and plan and worked on it all through the fall and winter.  And this month, we are going to get the bigger projects accomplished, just in time for the arrival of our little one!

The first project on the list was a shed in our backyard for Michael’s aquarium hobby.  A few years ago, he had a frag tank where he grew coral frags that he would sell to friends and at frag swaps.  This is one great way to get involved in the aquarium community, and he really liked doing it.

But he closed up shop, so to speak, after our second daughter passed away and took a year off.  He definitely wanted to do it again, but wanted to make sure he had the proper space and time to do it.

And that’s when he got the idea for having a shed in our backyard to move his frag growing tank.  He also wanted to build it in such a way that it could be used for other things down the road.

We ended up hiring a contractor to do the work, since it is busy season for Michael, and I’m, you know, pregnant (could you imagine me building this right now?).  So here was the process last week.

Before.  This was where my garden was last year.  We moved the garden to the other side of the yard, which actually will work out better.


After the first day (you can see the platform).


During the second day.  I stayed inside with the pups during most of the construction, so that’s why these look like sneaky pictures from the window.  Because they are.


The final product!


I refer to it now as our barn because of the big door in the front.  Michael still has to paint it to match the house, and we have an electrician coming to wire it, but it’s neat to see the project come together!

How to Stop Time: A Review

How to Stop Time by Matt Haig

This was the book that I mentioned in my February Favorites post.  Here’s the full review!

How To Stop Time is an Adult Fiction by Matt Haig. It’s a beautiful mixture of historical fiction and a little bit of intrigue and mystery and romance. I picked up this book because I wanted something that had romance in it, and the tagline was “The number one rule is don’t fall in love.” And I was hooked. Also, I got a version that features illustrator Chris Riddell. I don’t have many books (Adult or YA) that have illustrations in them, so it was neat to see the words come to life alongside the gorgeous sketches.

Tom Hazard is the main character and narrator of the story. He has lived for over four hundred years due to a condition that makes him age slowly. The story interweaves between his memories of the past and present day that explains a lot of his motivations throughout the book. This has been one of the most seemingly realistic immortality-esque stories I have read. He isn’t rich or overly talented or charismatic, any more than any other human person, which makes him very relatable even though his condition and life are not. Other people with his condition are not completely like him. Similar, yes, but their own complex personalities and perspectives shape who they are. The “immortals” of this story are each different and have chosen different paths.
The women in his story are probably my favorite part. His mother, wife (Rose), daughter (Marion), and a present-day woman he meets while teaching history in London (Camille) are each different and complex. We don’t know everything about each character since it’s told from his perspective, but they are each painted as flawed yet beautiful people who affect his journey.
It’s written in the first person, from Tom’s perspective. We see his conflicting thoughts, his memories from the past and the present day situations in an effortless flowing narrative. The sections are short, as they flip from present day to various places in the past. And there are so many good quotes from this book. I felt like I could highlight several lines.
So, I don’t feel like I can write much about the plot without spoilers. After losing his mother and later his wife, Tom learns that his daughter might have the same condition that he does. He goes out in search of her and comes across a society of people like him. He joins this society in hopes that they will use their network to find his daughter, but in the meantime, he has to follow their rules – don’t fall in love, move every eight years, do whatever Heinrich (the leader) asks of you. As the story opens in present day, Tom is starting to question staying with this society, but fears what might happen if he doesn’t.
The overall themes of time and relationships are beautifully explored. I don’t want to get into specifics because, you know, spoilers, but the author actually does answer the question of how to stop time.

There is profanity used throughout the book, especially with some characters. It is actually a descriptor for a couple of the characters. And talked about deliberately (like, it’s acknowledged that the character cusses a lot).
There isn’t a whole lot of sexual content, at least none really described. A few kissing scenes here and there, and a reference to some sexual harassment that a couple characters endure. But in the sexual harassment section, it is alluded to, and then Tom goes and punches him in the nose. Nothing graphic
There is some violence. Tom is asked to bring people into the society, and if they don’t want to come, he is supposed to kill them. Tom is shot at one point. And of course, there is death throughout the story as people die and he goes on living. But none of it, I felt was too graphic.

At first, I was going to give this book 4 out of 5 stars because I enjoyed the story and flow well enough. But the ending was so good and as I was reading it, I realized how it had all been building up to this. I got emotional, and that bumps this up to 5 stars for me. It’s a wonderful read about life and time and relationships. I would definitely recommend!

I Couldn’t Help Myself

This past Sunday, Michael and I arrived at church a little early.  While we were waiting for others to get there, some of the kids came running in and said, “Ms. Katy, there’s a dog outside!”

Now, if you’ve known me for a hot minute, you would know I have a few passions in life, and one of the big ones is those of the canine persuasion.  When I’m not pregnant, I volunteer with the SPCA of Dallas, and I am a pet sitter.  I love working with dogs who are undersocialized, and dog behavior and rehabilitation are my niches.  But I am also the one that will go after a stray or a lost dog in the neighborhood without another thought.

So when I heard there was a dog outside, my first instinct was to investigate.  I mean, like, leaving my purse in the chair and walked straight to the door.  And then I heard a voice behind me,

“Katy, wait.  I’m coming with you.  Do not handle that dog.”

That would be my husband, who knows that when a dog is in need of help, I can sometimes forget myself.  So, we went outside, where one of our other adult friends was holding this beautiful Rotty mix by the collar.


The dog was calm, friendly, and curious.  He knew how to sit and give a high five.  His coat was shiny.  He looked well fed.  His nails were cared for.  This was a loved dog, and I knew someone was definitely missing him.

So what do you do when you find a lost dog?

First of all, no child should approach a loose dog.  This is something to instill in every. single. child.  Do not go up to a dog, not even if they seem friendly and relaxed.  Don’t run after a dog either.  Don’t whistle or call out.  In a calm voice, while bending down low, call out to them.  If you have treats, throw them out in front of you, far away from you and then close to you.  If the dog doesn’t seem interested, then call animal control.  Do not try to wrangle or trap the dog.  It’s best if you have some type of slip lead with you or rope that you can tie to their collar.

Handling dogs can be dangerous, especially when you don’t know their background if they are good with kids, men, or other animals.  I just want to stress again that if you are in any doubt, that you just call animal services.  I know “dog catchers” get a bad reputation, but they are well trained, and the ones I’ve met just want the dogs to be reunited with their families as much as we do.

Since this dog was pretty calm, and easy to handle (by my husband and our friend, not me) my first instinct was to find a local Vet ER to find out if the dog has a microchip.  Usually, they are open on the weekends and have a scanner.   It turned out that he did have one!  I cannot stress enough how important it is to microchip your dog.  It’s not very expensive, and for our dog, it’s twenty dollars a year to maintain.  Because this dog was microchipped, they were able to contact the owner and leave my name and number (with my permission, of course).

We waited at the building for a while, hoping to get a callback but unfortunately, we couldn’t stay there.

So if you can’t hold onto the dog, what do you do?

The best place to take them is actually the local humane shelter or animal services.  They can keep the dog there until they are picked up by the owner.  We ended up taking the dog (whose name was Zeus) to the Dallas Animal Services.  They took my information, checked over the dog, and that was it.

About an hour or two later, I did get a call from the owner.  Apparently, they are staying with family while construction is being done on their house.  This is a prime situation for a dog to get loose and lost – being in an unfamiliar environment.  This happens a lot during moves as well.  Luckily, I told them where he was, and that he was waiting for them to pick him up.  It was a wonderfully happy ending!



Anticipating March

Returning to my theme word of the year, anticipation, I thought I would take a look back over the month of February and look ahead into the month of March.

In February, I definitely continue to deal with an elevated sense of anxiety, although I have to say that routine and support have been helpful with this particular issue.  I am so grateful for the overwhelming love and care I received from my community, both here in Dallas and online.  I cannot thank you enough for the understanding and judgment-free zone you have provided over the course of this last month.

I did enjoy some good entertainment this month.  The Black Panther movie did not disappoint.  And while I did manage to knock a few more books off of my TBR list, I also added more, and have more coming in this month as well.  I realize that my reading will probably take a nose dive after the baby is born so I will try to soak up as much as I can this month.

And, yes, we did manage to squeeze in some celebration time for our relationship anniversaries this year.  I didn’t write much about this experience, but we definitely managed to keep our tradition of getting blizzards at Dairy Queen!  It was nice to look back on our road together with some happy nostalgia.

Now, onto the month of March!


  • Moving along in my pregnancy.  This month is completely unknown territory to me.  My last pregnancy ended after 7 months, but we are working on the 8th month of pregnancy in March.  It’s kind of odd to already have experience in labor and delivery, but have no idea what happens after 30 weeks.  Hopefully, I will be learning a lot and be leaning on God through it all.
  • Warmer weather and sunshine.  Usually, in March, I start to plan and plant my garden for the year by picking out the vegetables, flowers, and herbs that I will grow in my outdoor garden.  This year, I will probably delay this until the summer or have a late fall garden (although, I may wait until next year, altogether.  At least, I have my indoor mint herb kit).  Instead, though, I do hope to spend some time outside, enjoying the warmer weather, maybe bringing a book or two and a blanket.
  • House Projects.  Instead of a garden focus this year, we will be doing a lot of house projects.  Chalk it up to nesting or whatever, but Michael and I decided that we are going to try to knock out as many of these to-dos on our list as possible this month.  We already have some set in motion, and still, have to make final decisions on others.  But I’m hoping that it will all be accomplished before our new arrival this Spring.

You guys, this month’s secondary theme is unknown territory.  I feel like I’ve been saying that a lot in my videos, but it’s true.  I am cautiously anticipating this month for sure!