Remembrance Day 2018

This month is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, and this Monday, October 15th, it will be Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.  In 2016 and 2017, Michael and I have spent this day with the pregnancy loss community in a balloon release.

This year, we won’t be participating publicly, but we are going to light our candle on the day.  At 7pm CST, we plan to light a candle for each of our daughters to remember them.  This is the time set aside for all loss families to light a candle and remember together, no matter where they are.  I would encourage you to light a candle and remember with them.  It means so much to have my daughters remembered.  And I know I’m not the only one who feels that way.

If you are a loss mom or dad, you are loved and your children are loved.  You are not alone, and we grieve with you.


Hope Moms Balloon Release

This weekend, Michael and I attended our second Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day Balloon Release.  Last year, it was connected with a walk, but this year they just did the balloon release, which was still pretty special.


It was extremely windy, so I had Michael in charge of the balloons.  We had two pink balloons for each of our daughters.  They had pink, blue, and yellow available.  Yellow balloons were generally for the babies who passed before the gender was known.


Of course, as they were flying away, I was just overwhelmed.  So many little, loved ones were being celebrated in that park.  It means so much to me to know that I have a community of families who have been there.  I’m also thankful for my own community, all of you, who have been through this journey with us.

Our Eighth Walk

This past Saturday, Michael and I attended our eighth Walk to End Alzheimer’s here in Dallas.  Last year’s recap can be found here.



I say “attended” because I didn’t actually walk this year.  Since I’m in a high-risk pregnancy and have been dealing with a lot of morning sickness, we thought it would be best if I sat this one out.  I became the place where everyone would meet, left their valuables, and took pictures together.

I say “everyone” because we had quite a team this year.  Michael’s coworkers formed a big part of our team.  We were so happy that so many were able to come and support us.


Also, Michael’s mom and her friend came (friend not pictured).  We were so happy she was able to come as well.  She also plans to walk in the Alzheimer Walk in her home state later this year.  It really made this weekend special!


Of course, I didn’t sit alone!  Jerzee came along as well!  I can’t remember how many walks this will be for her, but she has been to most of them throughout the years!  She even wore her bandana she got last year.


One of my favorite parts of the opening ceremony is when we all raise our flowers for Alzheimer’s.  Each color represents a different category.  Yellow flowers are the ones who are caretakers.  Blue flowers are the ones who have Alzheimer’s.  Purple ones have lost someone to Alzheimer’s.  And Orange ones are for those who are advocates or supporters.


Because of all the support from friends and family, we made our team goal, plus some!  And I also made my personal goal (plus some) as well!  We are so thankful for your thoughts, prayers, donations, and supportive comments.  We are determined to find a cure for this horrible disease as well as help advocate for the care of those already dealing with this disease.  Thank you for all of your support!

Clear The Shelter Day 2017

Last Saturday was Clear the Shelter day in DFW.  This was my second one.  My first one I wrote about two years ago.

One of my friends on Facebook posted about their confusion about this day.  She said that for the majority of the year, these shelters were pretty particular about who can adopt these pups and during this event, they practically throw a puppy in your lap!  I think this is a very legitimate concern, and while I can’t speak for other shelters, I can tell you my perspective from volunteering at the SPCA.

(I do also want to say that I am in no way employed by the SPCA and I do not speak on their behalf.  I have been volunteering there for 2 years so I will speak from that experience only, though I have volunteered in various parts of the organization).

So to answer this question, I want to address some of the main questions I get from potential adopters, so here we go.


  • Where do these pups come from?  

The top three places dogs enter the SPCA is through owner surrender, rescue and investigation seize, and other shelters.

Owner surrenders are not horrible owners who stopped loving their pups and gave them away.  Usually, there are extenuating circumstances around the surrender – the owners are moving to a place the dogs can’t go, financial or medical reasons, a new family member is allergic, etc.  Sometimes it’s even a recent adopter returning a pup because it turned out to not be a good match for the family.  This is not a bad situation either.  In fact, it helps us know more about the dog and what might be a better match for them.

Our rescue and investigation department does deal with some abusive situations.  But most situations I have seen were hoarding situations.  The owner, for whatever reason, has become too overwhelmed with their animals, and they are unable to care for them. Neglect sets in and the SPCA steps in.  Our dog Teddy came from one of these hoarding situations.  He is a loving dog that didn’t have a whole lot of human interaction before coming into our home.  Now he sleeps on our couch.

They do also help other shelters by taking on dogs when the shelter gets too overwhelmed.  Sometimes it’s because of natural disaster in that area, sometimes it’s just an influx of animals to that shelter.  The one thing that is different about these dogs is that sometimes they don’t know the history of these dogs.  Every shelter deals with dog intake differently.   However, the dogs do go through the SPCA’s intake process (see below) like any dog coming through the door.


  • Are they spayed or neutered?

Yes, every dog on the adoption floor has been spayed/neutered, microchipped, and all of their vaccinations are up to date.  Before these dogs go onto the adoption floor, they receive a full check up with our vet clinic and continue to receive vet care as needed. They are also observed for any behavioral issues, though some issues may not present themselves until later, or even after in the home.

If there are behavioral issues, they have animal behaviorists on site to work with them, as well as trained behavior volunteers and behavior fosters (who will take them in their home to observe them in that setting and work with them).  Not every dog works a lot with the behaviorist, though.  Only if they present with major issues.  Our behavior volunteers and dog walking/animal handling volunteers do continue to interact with the dogs on a daily basis, and might even teach them a trick or two.  If they do show some strange behavior, it is documented and the dog is set up for a new behavior evaluation.


  • Are they housebroken?

The SPCA cannot guarantee that any dog is housebroken, but they can talk about being shelter trained.  That means that within our shelter and on the shelter’s schedule, the dog has had little to no accidents in their kennel.  But in my personal experience being a pet sitter, behavior foster, and dog owner, dogs usually can have one or two accidents in the first week during that transition period.  Puppies will have a lot more accidents.

These dogs are loved daily and well-known by the staff and volunteers.  The adoption counseling volunteers are trained to help find the best matches for the people who walk through those doors.  They love putting the Adopted signs on their kennels, but they also love those dogs in those kennels.  They want the match to be successful because a lot of hard, loving work went into the care of that animal.  No matter if it’s a Clear the Shelter day or a typical Tuesday, they want what’s best for that animal and for the potential adopter.

The SPCA didn’t clear the shelter this year.  They did have some longer-term residents find their families on Saturday, and there were so many happy tears and pictures during that time.  They still had 10 dogs on the floor at closing, but I know that those dogs will go home soon.  Because I’ve seen dogs that never seem to be a match find the perfect home on a random weekday.  They still have a special until Labor day – all dogs, puppies, cats, and kittens are $25.  So, if you weren’t able to get to the SPCA on Saturday, I hope you will stop by and find your perfect pet soon!  Check out their site for the potential pups at!

Gordon, The Foster Dog

This is Gordon.


Gordon was adopted but then surrendered again.  So, the SPCA behaviorist asked me to take Gordon on as a foster to see how he does in the home.  The surrendering family said that he had problems with housetraining.  He is afraid to go outside so I could see how this might be a problem

But he did great in our home!  Granted, he mostly just wanted to snuggle on the couch (and by snuggle, I mean practically laying on top of me while I was on the computer!).


But he did go outside and potty.  And he never made a mess inside!  You do have to prod him with a leash to go outside, but he started getting the idea pretty quickly that if he went to the bathroom, then we could go back inside and snuggle.

He got along with my pups as well.  They loved taking naps together.


He was a big dog, but so sweet and gentle.  He will make a great addition to any family!


The Streak is Still On!

So every dog that I have fostered has gotten adopted so far, after being fostered in our home (meaning they didn’t have to go out to another foster or anything).  I thought this streak was going to end with Shayla, the foster I had a couple months ago, but she was adopted in the last week!


The family who adopted her have another active dog, which Shayla really doesn’t care about, but it will give the family another dog to fill in the affection void while Shayla warms up to them.  I know she is capable of great love and I’m so happy she is finally home!