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Stand All The Way Up: Stories of staying in it when you want to burn it all down by Sophie Hudson

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First of all, to be perfectly fair, I thought this was a different kind of book. I had never heard of this author, though she has written other books as well. I got this book because of an Instagram recommendation and the title of the book. I thought this was a book about social justice and the evangelical church because those have been one of the types of books I’ve been seeking lately in my nonfiction reads. But this is not that book.

That doesn’t make this a bad book. Each chapter is an essay with funny, light anecdotes and scripture references. It reminded me of the speakers at Ladies day luncheons at church growing up. It’s definitely entertaining, just not the depth that I thought there would be.

Except for the last chapter which touches on the things going on in the world (and this was published in 2020 so it was written before the pandemic). The author makes a point about not being consumed with anger and rage and instead fight for the things that are important in your community and among your neighbors. It ends on a reminder to bring Jesus with you whatever you are, whatever you are doing. Which, honestly, does get lost in the fray on social media, politics, and our every day lives lately.

Overall, it’s definitely a book I would recommend to women who are trying to navigate all the harshness of life and the world as is it is now, while continuing to be in a more traditional, evangelical church setting. I hope the author writes another book that reflects more of what has happened in the last few years with the church and our country as a whole, and how she has navigated the complexities there.

Chasing Vines: A Review

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Chasing Vines by Beth Moore
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

This was the most recent book that came out earlier this year.  Beth Moore, on a trip with her daughters to Italy, fell in love with the vineyard country.  She continued her research into viticulture and the symbolism used in the Bible.  She challenges the thought process that producing fruit in the Bible simply means baptizing others but is more about the health of all aspects of our lives.

The pruning chapter is so needed, especially in this climate.  Even when obstacles seem to put a stop to everything, God is intimately there, working behind the scenes.  The book ends with a lot of hope, encouragement, and challenge.  Our responsibility to stay connected to The Vine in order to bear fruit in our lives.

There is no profanity or sexual content in this book.  There is a chapter about the death of her dog which I had a hard time reading.  It was quite graphic, but in the end, there was comfort and hope.

I loved the symbolism of viticulture and theology.  Wasn’t quite sure how to decide whether we were dealing with manure or pestilence in certain points in life unless it was in hindsight.  Those were the two chapters I felt the need to reread several times.  Very encouraging book!

Why Is This Still Happening?

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I did a series on my blog called Continuing the Conversation about Pregnancy and Infant Loss. As I would research articles online about recent conversations on this topic, I started noticing a trend. A lot of these posts online would start out with “We don’t talk about (miscarriage, infertility, etc) very much.”

Even though 1 in 4 women experience loss , I still seem to live in a world where that statistic is not realized (and that’s the American statistic. One of the most technologically advanced, medically advanced, innovative countries, and we still experience infertility and loss 25% of the time). I still get comments at the store from the cashier or some other stranger who suggests that I need to have another child like it is as easy as picking laundry detergent on aisle 12.

Being on this side of the road now, it’s easy to see the struggle, the tears, the waiting, the dashed hopes, and all of the pain that comes with simply trying to add another member to your family. There doesn’t really seem to be a simple way to do it, despite how much people have suggested all sorts of “easy answers” to our complicated struggle in the past. So, I thought I would take a step back, back in time, to when I was that newly wedded wife who was afraid her birth control wasn’t going to work, and she would get pregnant way before she was ready. The first few times I even heard about a friend struggling with infertility, all the responses that I would eventually hear in my own situation popped into my head, and sometimes even out of my mouth.

I just simply didn’t understand. I thought I did. I thought infertility or miscarriage were things that happened in extreme cases, that all this anxiety may just be an overreaction and that they needed to just relax (I know, I know, I was young and ignorant). It wasn’t until I had the term “unexplained” attached to my own stillbirths that I realized the medical research doesn’t actually have this all figured out. It’s is not a simple cause and effect. It’s a case by case situation. And each case has to be approached with compassion and patience.

But why, when we have all of this evidence, all these stories shared in books and online, do we still have to endure the conversations in the grocery store or at church or even in our own families? And I realized, speaking for myself most of all, that this world is not as stable as we would like it to be, that pulling ourselves up by our bootstraps, working hard, being diligent, saying the right things, praying the right prayers, checking all the boxes just doesn’t guarantee anything.

Personally, I like structure. I like the routine. I like to know that if I do A and B, then C will always be the result. But life doesn’t happen that way. Kids die before their parents. Loving wives can still be cheated on. “Til Death Do You Part” can happen way before it should. People who love their jobs and are good at them still lose them. Houses, even in gated communities, can still be vandalized. Kids from loving, supportive homes can still make bad choices in their life.

I’m not saying this because I’m just throwing up my hands, “Eat, Drink, and Be Merry” about it all. But since we all know and experience instability in our lives, we have an amazing opportunity to extend patience and compassion to those who are experiencing it in their own life. To acknowledge that there is no easy answer that will fix things. To listen and be willing to sit in the silence of grief. To understand that I won’t understand every situation completely, and extend grace to those around me who could be having the worst day of their life. To approach every conversation without all the answers.

This is challenging for me. I like being in control and knowing how things end. I don’t like being uncomfortable or have anyone around me that’s sad. I love laughing and having living room dance parties and late-night board game sessions. I love stories with hopeful and happy endings. I like sunshiny days in the garden. I like seeing other people experience joy and good surprises.

But life is both these good things and the bad stuff, too. And it’s healthy to acknowledge them both in our lives and the lives of others. As a Christian, I think it’s a big part of being a follower of Christ. He wept and laughed and got outraged. He felt all the feelings without fear or shame. In all the instability, he is a rock. A cornerstone to all the hope in the world. I want to use that hope in Christ to further my growth in how I interact with others, forgiving the hurtful, ignorant comments because I understand the need for control and distaste for the uncomfortable. And in the same way, I want to watch the words that come out of my own mouth, that they bring hope instead of hurt, silence when it is preferred, and enough compassion to acknowledge that I don’t understand, but I’m still gonna be here anyway.