Continuing the Conversation

I want to continue sharing other people’s stories or articles from around the internet, so here are three new voices to share.

“Infertility is a silent killer, just like cancer – it eats at your soul, as cancer eats at your body” – Talischa Towsen shares her story on this parent website.  She talks about her miscarriages, failed IUIs, even other family members getting pregnant in the midst of their journey.  And her story is ongoing, which I think is amazing and so important to share.

Zara Tindall Shares How Suffering A Miscarriage Made Her Relationship With Her Husband Stronger – Zara Tindall is a part of the British Royal Family, so her pregnancies are pretty public.  She suffered two miscarriages after her first daughter and then had her second daughter after the miscarriages.  She mentions how helpless her husband felt and that communication helped their relationship grow stronger.

Secondary infertility: When trying for another child is a struggle –  A brief, informative synopsis of secondary infertility.  I didn’t realize that 11% of couples experience this.  It was an interesting read.

If you have never experienced pregnancy loss or infertility, I can guarantee there is someone in your life who has.  While the above stories may not be the same experiences for everyone, they can definitely open that window to more understanding and empathy for what everyone goes through.  And for those of you who are in the midst of these unknowns or losses, you are not alone.  May these words uplift and encourage you today.

Do you have any posts or articles that have touched you or compelled you to share?

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Continuing the Conversation

I want to continue sharing other people’s stories or articles from around the internet, so here are three new voices to share.

5 things I always tell new loss Mom’s – I’ve been following Crystal for a while.  She shares the stories of many loss moms, but I really liked this particular post.  It’s a great reminder about the realities of recovery and grief.

James Van Der Beek On Miscarriage: ‘Let’s Wipe All Blame Off The Table’ – Apparently, Van Der Beek and his wife have endured three miscarriages.  He writes a touching post on his Instagram which is shared in this post.

This Is What It’s Like Before The Rainbow – This was hard for me to read because I have felt a lot of these feelings, had a lot of these experiences.  I didn’t have this exact experience because my OB clinic was a lot more supportive.  I think that some people, in a hope to lift up a loss mom will remind them of the possibility of a rainbow baby, but that isn’t always the outcome for every woman.  It’s important to recognize the reality of the present loss when it’s happening and the grief that the mom and dad will go through.

If you have never experienced pregnancy loss or infertility, I can guarantee there is someone in your life who has.  While the above stories may not be the same experiences for everyone, they can definitely open that window to more understanding and empathy for what everyone goes through.  And for those of you who are in the midst of these unknowns or losses, you are not alone.  May these words uplift and encourage you today.

Do you have any posts or articles that have touched you or compelled you to share?

Continuing the Conversation

I want to continue sharing other people’s stories or articles from around the internet, so here are three new voices to share.

A Viral Photo Shows the Struggle of Infertility – A gorgeous picture that went viral.  It depicts the honest journey one couple had to experience to get their daughter.  Four years, 7 IVF attempts, and 3 miscarriages culminated in 1,616 shots.

After Infertility, Isolation, and Displacement, a refugee in Iraq finds a place to heal – The story of Rawa (her name changed for safety and privacy) who finds out she can’t conceive after she marries her husband.  It’s a heartwrenching story of emotional abuse, war, leaving her home, and finding healing as a refugee.  A must read.

‘Just a game-changer’: Regina woman channels infertility anxiety into monthly challenges – I really related to this woman’s path of trying to conceive.  You get to a point where you need distractions to keep sane.  I think these challenges are an excellent and creative way to cope.

If you have never experienced pregnancy loss or infertility, I can guarantee there is someone in your life who has.  While the above stories may not be the same experiences for everyone, they can definitely open that window to more understanding and empathy for what everyone goes through.  And for those of you who are in the midst of these unknowns or losses, you are not alone.  May these words uplift and encourage you today.

Do you have any posts or articles that have touched you or compelled you to share?

Looking Back, Looking Forward

The day this post goes up will be the two year anniversary of my second daughter’s stillbirth.  It’s the first anniversary to hit since my son’s arrival.  And my mind has been in serious contemplation mode.

It’s strange because right now, I’m watching my son grow before my very eyes.  Every day has been different.  He’s learning so much, interacting so much.  I can’t help but wonder what it would have been like if my daughters were here.  What these milestones would have been like.  When would they start to babble?  Would they be standing and rolling and sitting as well as Sam is at this age?  How would Sam’s growth have been affected by having his big sisters around?

This week, I re-read the post that I wrote the day I found out that my daughter had passed away.  The post transported me to that hospital triage room, the silent heart monitors and ultrasound machines, to my stubborn cries out to God.  As I got to the end of all of the encouraging comments, my son (who had been sleeping at this point) woke up with a whimper.  And it felt like I was waking up, too, being pulled back into the present moment.

I love my son, and I’m so grateful for every moment I get to spend with him.  I also love my daughters, and I miss them terribly.  But I am thankful to God for how he has shaped my grief and guided my path these last five years.  Even though I look back to remember, more importantly, I am able to look forward in hope.  Praise be to God.  He is so good.

 

Continuing the Conversation

I want to continue sharing other people’s stories or articles from around the internet, so here are three new voices to share.  One of them is a way you can get involved!

New Zealand to consider miscarriage leave for parents in bid to tackle ‘taboo’ subject – After having a miscarriage, being able to take some time off to grieve and recover is so important.  I’m glad to hear New Zealand is thinking about doing this.  I would love to see America do this as well.

This Is Why It’s Important To Talk About Miscarriage – Beautiful article of one women’s experience with miscarriage and the fact that it wasn’t really discussed around her until her miscarriage became unavoidably public.  I came to these same conclusions after I wrote about my first miscarriage, that talking about it helps other women feel less alone.

BYU grads help families struggling with infertility – This one was totally cool.  After experiencing infertility and the costs of IVF, one family decided to start a children’s clothing line to help other families with IVF, adoption or surrogacy.  Basically, to help families build however they are able to!  Plus, the clothes are absolutely cute and affordable.  Here is a link straight to the clothing site.

If you have never experienced pregnancy loss or infertility, I can guarantee there is someone in your life who has.  While the above stories may not be the same experiences for everyone, they can definitely open that window to more understanding and empathy for what everyone goes through.  And for those of you who are in the midst of these unknowns or losses, you are not alone.  May these words uplift and encourage you today.

Do you have any posts or articles that have touched you or compelled you to share?

Continuing the Conversation

I want to continue sharing other people’s stories or articles from around the internet, so here are three new voices to share.

The Truth About the Financial Side of Infertility – An interview with a woman who went through IVF treatments and the cost of those treatments, how they managed to pay them, and the additional, non-financial costs along the way as well.

A LETTER TO THE CHILD I LOST TO MISCARRIAGE – Beautiful heart-wrenching letter from a mom to her daughter.  I felt all the feels reading this letter.  Writing like this can be so therapeutic.  It also helps others know that they aren’t alone.

Infertility: All sex and no play – I laughed out loud on this one.  A realistic view of sex while trying to get pregnant, also with the possibility of secondary infertility.

If you have never experienced pregnancy loss or infertility, I can guarantee there is someone in your life who has.  While the above stories may not be the same experiences for everyone, they can definitely open that window to more understanding and empathy for what everyone goes through.  And for those of you who are in the midst of these unknowns or losses, you are not alone.  May these words uplift and encourage you today.

Do you have any posts or articles that have touched you or compelled you to share?

Continuing the Conversation

I want to continue sharing other people’s stories or articles from around the internet, so here are three new voices to share.

We Unknowingly Make Women Who Have Dealt With Infertility Feel Excluded -A really well-written article that sheds light on the things we unintentionally do and communicate as a society to women who are struggling with infertility.  I’ve shared some very similar feelings during my journey.

Study: Women’s emotional state not related to success of infertility treatment – I thought this was really interesting, especially considering that a lot of women who struggle with infertility hear the advice of “just relax.”  Maybe pointing to this study might help squelch that.

Monique Samuels Says Past Miscarriage ‘Haunts’ Her Current Pregnancy — But She Feels ‘Blessed – I don’t really watch any of the Real Housewife reality TV, but I thought this was a great article about pregnancy after loss.  The second-guessing.  The wariness of it all.  I totally relate, and I’m glad a public figure is speaking on the subject.

If you have never experienced pregnancy loss or infertility, I can guarantee there is someone in your life who has.  While the above stories may not be the same experiences for everyone, they can definitely open that window to more understanding and empathy for what everyone goes through.  And for those of you who are in the midst of these unknowns or losses, you are not alone.  May these words uplift and encourage you today.

Do you have any posts or articles that have touched you or compelled you to share?